I first became interested in counselling when I worked for the Citizens’ Advice Bureau. I discovered that most of us have a difficulty we find unable to overcome at some time in our lives and talking about it with a skilled, empathic, non-judgmental person can often clarify the situation. It can stop the ‘circling thoughts’ that we can suffer from and help us find the way forward.
I went on to take a degree in psychology and then a diploma in Integrative Counselling. I have worked with teenagers who have left foster care or children’s homes and were setting up homes of their own – with all the emotional and practical problems to deal with. For the past two years my work has been with people with drug and alcohol dependencies and I also work with the close relatives who are affected by the dependency. In these cases, my clients need help coping with the relationship in which the other person seems to have the ‘problem’. However, lots of life’s problems such as debt or illness, for example, can affect our relationships. It seems that sometimes we feel we can’t see the wood for the trees – and this is where counselling can help.
Many problems can stem from our past, but my personal view is that we cannot change the past but we can change our reaction to it. Again, this is where counselling can help. I like to focus on the ‘here and now’ and how we can go forward positively into the future.
At the Harmony Centre I will be happy to offer a free half hour introductory session to anyone who may be considering counselling and with absolutely no pressure to continue if you choose not to. In this way, we can discuss the goals of the counselling sessions should you continue, how many sessions may be necessary and, of course, negotiate the cost.